Just Ask Leslie: Jewelry Tips

Dear Leslie,
I hope to propose to my girlfriend this summer and would love to surprise her with a ring but I’m scared that I’ll mess up and get the wrong size. How can I find out her ring size in advance?
Brett in Chicago

The best way to ensure that you are getting the proper ring size for an engagement ring is to bring one of her other rings with you to the jeweler. That way, the jeweler can learn her exact size and fit the ring accordingly. If you know where your girlfriend keeps her jewelry and can find a ring to “steal” for the day, this is the way to go.

Unfortunately, many women never remove their rings, or are sure to notice if a piece of jewelry is missing, even if it is only for a few hours. If this is the case, I suggest trying to nab her ring for a few minutes, long enough to trace its size on a piece of paper you can later bring to the jeweler. Another good trick is trying one of her rings on yourself. This method is good, because you can do it right in front of her eyes, pretending you are just joking around. Be sure to take note of how far down you can push it on your finger, as this information will be critical to the jeweler who has to size the engagement ring.

If your girlfriend does not wear a ring, or own one, finding her ring size will prove to be much more difficult. You can try asking one of her friends to find out her ring size for you, or you may have to bite the bullet and ask her yourself, though of course this will be a major clue as to your future plans.

Once you have her ring size down, be sure you know her style before you purchase the ring. Look at her other jewelry and get a feel for what she likes - does she go for elaborate, flashy pieces or does she prefer smaller, understated jewelry. If she wears thin chains and small stones, it wouldn’t be right to get her a huge diamond. On the other hand, if she likes large jewelry, you can’t get her a tiny ring.

After buying the ring, be sure to store it safely until you give it to her, as diamonds can get scratched or harmed if rubbed against other hard substances. If you take good care of it, wrapping it in soft cloth or keeping it in the box it came in, it will be in perfect condition when the time comes to pop the question.